Please give practical advice on this 1?

oh hun, my heart goes out to you and to your husband. Your sound in the right mind frame of remorse and I can hear how much you regret what you did. Just pray that your husband will also hear it eventually. The man obviously loves you, and his heart and pride are broken. He naturally feels the need to separate himself from you. He is naturally feeling betrayed and what makes it worst that he was betrayed for years. It will take some time for him to regain trust again and then he may never trust you again. Time will be the only thing that will tell you this. My advice to you is for you to continue on the path of living life right. Be sure not to get into a sexual relationship with your husband during this time, it will only be confuse things and will make it more difficult for you if he should decide not to come back;. Maintain your dignity. Remember even though you did do things that were horrible, you are human, prone to make mistakes, and you are remorseful. For now your husband is aware you are willing to work on things and he so far has not shown any interest in doing so as he is stil hurt by this. What you do is not allow him access to you as far as sex, dates etc. Be nice and polite, and always make sure he knows you are willing to work on things. It is crucial you give him incentive to make a move towards a reconciliation and you do this by not allowing him to have his cake and to eat it too. Simply say it hurts too much to have sex and dates because you still love him and only want him when he is ready to commit to his marriage again. This will give him incentive to make up his mind. For now get yourself into therapy so that you can work through the guilt you feel over this and also to learn ways to restore your relationship with your hsuband. Good luck hun, I know this is a difficult lesson to learn but you are now in a better place of remorse and deserve to be forgiven. Take care.